Why women do buy sex?

Why women do buy sex?

This Interview was made by Theresa Bäuerlein and got published at "Krautreporter". Krautreporter is a cooperation for independent and qualified journalism in Germany, so you have to pay now for the german version here. Thanks for permission to publish the whole interview in english at my Blog!


Foto: the forever and ever magnificent Maroody Merav.

“What is a Vagina?”, that was a subheading in Dr. Ingeborg Kraus' lecture on December 3rd, 2017, as part of an event at the Urania in Berlin: "Sex Work - The Myth Shattered". The lecture's title: "Is the Vagina Allowed to Be Working Equipment?"

what is a vagina
"(...) Can the vagina be reduced to the tube of a vacuum cleaner? It isn't possible anatomically or psychologically. The vagina, and by that I mean the female sexual organs, can't be separated from the female body. Just the opposite, it is a highly sensitive organ which is connected to our brain and our whole body. It is the most intimate thing a woman possesses."
I'll admit to becoming suspicious when someone is explaining the world - or in this case, my body - to me. Especially when that person is an opponent of prostitution.

I wrote this article for our newspaper “taz”

It got published 4th of july 2018. As some of my friends and followers do not speak german, there you go!


Philosopher Svenja Flaßpöhler argues for more female desire in her newly published book "The Potent Woman", positioning herself as an antagonist of the #metoo movement. That's a shame, because that way, we miss yet another chance to talk about the sexually self-determined woman. 

Several weeks ago, I was delighted by a quote I came across: "A potent woman is one who has discarded patriarchal thought patterns. One who has her own desires. And isn't limited to be a mirror of male desire and to affirm him in his grandiosity. Instead of degrading male sexuality, she upgrades her own."

The quote is from philosopher Svenja Flaßpöhler's just published essay "The Potent Woman". Flaßpöhler has been attacked by feminists for the book, for in it, she positions herself as an antagonist of the #metoo movement. Which, according to Flaßpöhler, continues to uphold the patriarchal narrative of the woman as victim of aggressive male sexuality. Flaßpöhler argues for a more forward definition of femininity: women must grasp and live their own potency, instead of persisting in a passive position of accusation. She misses the active woman, the seductress, she sees in #metoo "a conspicuous absence of female desire".

For a moment there, it looked like a sexual revolution was taking place at this year's "Kirchentag" (church congress). Instead, I had to listen to the idea that women shouldn't be surprised about assault if they wear tight clothes and put on makeup.